Mark 10:43-45

There seems to be no small amount of discussion these days about who is supposed to be leading the family, the nation, our churches, etc. And I always find this odd. If we realized what leadership really means, I don’t think we’d have the race to the “front.” Because leadership isn’t about being in the front — it’s being down at the feet, humbly washing.

In Mark 10:43-45 we see a model for true leadership. Leadership isn’t about dominance; it’s about sacrifice so that another can flourish. God’s kingdom comes through serving others, and this directly applies to how husbands lead within their marriage. We are not called to lead by force or control but by sacrificially serving. In whatever capacity God has given you to lead, you are to do it as a servant.

Servant leadership, though, isn’t about a few grand gestures; it’s a daily commitment to dying to self for the sake of another. We are to reflect the heart of Christ, who came “not to be served, but to serve.” A servant leader models Christ. And now we’ve come full-circle. The way we image God rightly in our marriages is by leading as Christ calls us to lead.

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